“Two are better than one, because they have a good return for their labor: If either of them falls down, one can help the other up. But pity anyone who falls and has no one to help them up.”-Ecclesiastes 4:9-10
The past few years have been quite a journey in regards to the relationship area of my life. It’s been a time of pruning, but also a time of new blossoms and great fruit. The Holy Spirit has been faithful to help me pinpoint unhealthy relationship patterns and relationships. I’m not afraid to let go of connections that are negative. By God’s grace, I’m letting go of ways of relating that aren’t transparent or healthy. What is the point of holding onto negativity? It certainly doesn’t allow me to grow closer to my Creator! I have one life, and I’m going to spend it reaching for the Lord, not allowing people to criticize me or talk down to me. I’m going to spend it in right relationship to others. I’m a child of God, and I’ve chosen to surround myself with people who recognize that in me and themselves.
At my birthday party recently, some of my friends met one another for the first time. My friends commented to me about the people I am surrounded with. They are amazing, each and every one of them. People meeting for the first time connected well with one another. The light in them was recognizable and attracted each of them to each other. New friendships of light and love were built. In their presence, the love and kindness of God is evident.
Sometimes you can sense that a person’s character is like a diamond right away. Their shine reaches across rooms, and even through screens. There are others that will come into your life quietly, in God’s creative ways, and show themselves to have faithful character. They will see you through the mountaintop days, the dark valley days, and the days when you are struggling to be all that you can be. In all of this, they will not run. They will love and point you to Jesus Christ. They will stand in the gap and pray for you on the days when you can’t pray for yourself. They will see who you are now, and the greatness that the Lord has put into you, greatness still waiting to manifest.
Choosing my friends wisely: that has made all the difference. It is a big difference. Words cannot even describe the difference. The fruits visible in my life testify to the difference. With faithful friends, and my Heavenly Father, I’ve been able to do things I never could have dreamed. I’m running this race alongside people achieving and striving toward success in their lives. Most importantly, they are people who are striving toward the Light that will never end. And that, dear reader, is true success.
“Walk with the wise and become wise,
for a companion of fools suffers harm.” Proverbs 13:20
“A friend loves at all times,
and a brother is born for a time of adversity.” Proverbs 17:17